Wel all know someone who always needs to be in a relationship. If you are a girl that suffers from love addiction, you have to know that you don’t need a relationship to validate yourself.
I find it so sad when I see a woman who can’t bare to be by herself, is always seeking attention from others and needs to be in a relationship. Women who feel as though they are nothing without a relationship need to realize that they are so much more than the relationships they are in or have been in, and are much more than they attention they seek.
Read on to see why it is okay to be by yourself.
1. Being alone does not mean being lonely
Let me get one thing straight: this article is not trying to bash anyone who loves being in relationships or who has been in quite a few relationships. This one is a message for the women who feels as though they are nothing without one and who suffers from so called love addiction.
Even if you are single, that does not mean you have to be lonely. You should learn to become your own best friend. Love yourself and spend time with yourself.
Spend time with your friends and, if you are the type to ditch all of your friends for a significant other, then try harder to maintain friendships. Spend more time with your family as well.
Just know that even if you are alone, that does not automatically mean you are lonely.
Learning to be alone with yourself is extremely important. At the end of the day, who do you have? Yourself. It is never guaranteed that you have someone else. You have to learn to be okay with that.
You do not always need someone to give you attention and affection. Learn to give that to yourself.
2. You are more than a relationship
I know some women who truly believe that they are nothing if they are not in a relationship or even just “talking” to someone. Yes, a relationship can add a lot of positivity to your life and make it more special, but how could someone feel as though their life is so empty without one? There is more to life than that.
Don’t fill up your life with attention from the wrong people just to feel validated. That will just make you feel so much worse in the long run and shatter your self-confidence.
Someone right will come along, but, in the meantime, you need to learn that even if you are not in a relationship or with someone, it is okay. It is more than okay; in fact, it can be wonderful.
Take the time to learn about what you really want and gain independence. Feeling like you have to be dependent on someone else can make you feel even lonelier in the long run as well. You can shine all on your own; you are so much more than any relationship.
3. Changing your ways will gain you respect
In all honesty, people will know if you are desperate for attention and a relationship, and it can really attract the wrong kids of people. There is a reason why you maybe have gone through a lot of people.
The kinds of people you attract are the people that will just give you that short-term attention and then drop you like nothing. Or, they know that they can mistreat you because they know that, no matter what, you will stick around.
Don’t be that girl—the one who stays with someone just because they don’t want to be lonely. If you respect yourself, love yourself and do not allow yourself to be mistreated; it will attract someone that will not do you wrong.
If you show that you do not need someone, it will make someone else work even harder to be with you. Nothing is more attractive than a woman who is confident within herself.
What you start to work on the inside is what you will attract from other people. Know your worth, and then someone who is worthy of you will come along.
If I have to end with one thing, it would be that it really does break my heart to see women who suffer from love addiction and who feel as though they are nothing without attention.
I just want to hug them and tell them that they are so much more, and I wish they could see that. Let this article be that hug and message from me. I know you are worth more than you may think you are.
Do you have any other pieces of advice for someone that feels as though they are not validated unless they are in a relationship? Comment below!