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What To Wear On A First Date: Top 10 Style Tips

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Going on a date is always nerve-wracking, not to mention the very first one. Here’s what to wear on a first date in order to leave a lasting impression.

Don’t worry if you don’t have it all figured out from the get-go. These things take time.

Apart from having to get your nerves under control and formulate a whole conversation in your head before even meeting, you also need to know the best fashion choices and tips in order to be as comfortable as possible and still look pretty darn beautiful.

It’s tough being a woman! There are so many factors that play into a first date that it’s near to impossible to get it right all of the time, wouldn’t you agree?

In fact, when choosing what to wear on a first date, you need to take into consideration the venue, the impression you want to leave, whether or not you think you might see him again, how excited you are about this particular first date, how to show a little bit of skin without going all out. It’s tough.

However, in order to help you out a little bit, we thought we’d add a checklist of first date tips in order to turn the first date into many more to come.
Below, find some obvious and plenty of helpful tips in order to get you through your first date experience; possibly turning it into the first of many.

Check the venue

It’s extremely important to scout the venue before showing up. Not only can this save you major embarrassment if you show up to a beach-themed restaurant in an evening dress, but you’ll prevent yourself from having to choose between numerous ‘what to wear on a first date’ styles; potentially wasting precious time and saving you plenty of frustration and money.
So before planning any part of your first date outfit, always have a look at the theme of the venue; restaurant or not.

Choose comfort, always

Despite how amazing you want to look, how you feel is much more important. Of course, you want to experience both, but that’s not always ideal.
The last thing you want is to be fidgeting with your clothing in areas that will make it seem obvious that you’re uncomfortable. Any man, when he’s interested in you, will notice your discomfort and you’ll feel even more self-conscious.
The best thing you can do when choosing what to wear on a first date is to choose an outfit that will allow you to do the one thing you’re definitely supposed to; have fun.

Leave most for the imagination

Depending on the type of man you decide to go on a first date with, he’s going to want you to be a little bit conservative. This doesn’t mean you can’t show off a little bit of leg or maybe a tiny bit of cleavage; as long it’s one or the other.
Don’t feel regret if you go out on a date with someone you end up really liking only to find out that he judges you based on what you wore. Sure, being judged is never nice but the fact of the matter is, that’s all someone has to go on if it’s the first date.
You have to ensure that you leave a positive lasting impression without coming across as cheap.

Thoroughly plan your outfit

There’s probably nothing worse than thinking you know what you want to wear for a first date only to realize last minute that what you wanted to wear really isn’t going to work.
It’s only about an hour before you have to leave for the date and you have nothing to wear. What to do? Well, it’s as easy as planning out your outfit thoroughly in order to avoid any surprises.
That way you have one less thing to stress about when it comes to the whole dating scene. It can be stressful so don’t add any more than you should.

Always take a light jacket

Always pack a light jacket or something to throw over your shoulder in case the weather decides to turn. If he’s a gentleman, he’ll offer his jacket, but you just never know.
Remember, always show up prepared in order to avoid feeling uncomfortable and cold as the night progresses. The weather can turn easily and you’d rather show up to the date with a little bit of extra coverage than not enough.
Wear comfortable shoes

Unless you can walk in them comfortably, don’t even attempt wearing uncomfortable shoes on your first date. The key to a successful date is being comfortable and leaving a confident impression.
Uncomfortable shoes will only cause you to walk funny and result in painful blisters that could’ve been avoided by wearing shoes you most definitely feel comfortable to walk in.
They say beauty is painful but you can look just as beautiful without the pain.

Choose an outfit you’d normally wear

Just because you’re going on a hot first date doesn’t mean you have to wear an outfit you wouldn’t normally be seen with.
You still want to feel like yourself, and you certainly want to show him the truest version of yourself. Stick to your own sense of style and flaunt what you were given. He’ll love it!

Can’t decide? Choose red

What happens if you’re stuck with numerous outfits, all different colors, and you simply can’t decide on one. If you happen to have a red choice amongst the lot, go with that.
Psychologically, red creates a moth to a flame type of effect. Men find red on women most attractive and seductive. So if the goal of the evening is to lure him in, always choose your red outfit.
Please note, in order to lure him in with red, your outfit also needs to have a fitting cut. No use wearing a sack.

Look touchable

If you’re into your date and he’s into you, you most certainly want to be touched, right? So as much as you want to keep skin exposure limited and come across as a little bit conservative, you also want the best of both worlds where you look touchable.
Don’t be afraid to play around with outfits and accentuate your best features. If it’s your eyes, wear eye make-up. If you have curvy hips, don’t be afraid to wear a pencil skirt. Wear what fits you best.

Don’t purchase new shoes

Whatever you do, don’t wear new shoes when choosing what to wear on a first date. Sure, we all want to look brand new and shiny, which includes purchasing a brand new outfit.

However, you’ll end up with blisters before the night has even begun which will cause you to walk funny and feel extreme discomfort. As one of those things you want to avoid, rather choose one of your regular pairs of shoes. Choose pretty but don’t necessarily go with a brand new. You’ll thank us.
We understand how crazy and stressful the first date can be, for both parties. It’s really more of an understatement. So don’t let not knowing what to wear on a first date add to the pressures of life and the overall dating scene.

Let your hair down a little bit, go with the flow, add a whole lot of confidence, and know that you’re in good hands if you follow the above-mentioned first date fashion tips.
Remember, when it comes to deciding on what to wear on a first date, always leave enough room for preparations in order to give yourself enough time to change your mind if you wish to do so.

You simply can’t end up not having enough time to get ready; especially if you think this date can turn into something serious.
First impressions really do count, so make wise choices when choosing what to wear on a first date and you may end up going on continuous dates for a long time still to come.

 

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Barua kwako Mjasiriamali by Carol Ndozi

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Kuelekea kuumaliza mwaka 2017, ningependa ku-share nanyi moja kati ya vitu vilivyonipa ujasiri/moyo kuanza mwaka 2018 kwa matumaini zaidi bila kukata tamaa au kuwaza vikwazo vilivyo mbele yangu.

Licha ya barua hii kuwa inahusu wajasiriamali wanaoanza, kwa upande wangu naona pia kwa maisha kwa ujumla inahamasisha. It’s worth reading.
Barua kwako Mjasiriamali Unayeanza, By Carol Ndosi ( @CarolNdosi ).

Salaam kwako, ni matumaini yangu kuwa Mwaka 2017 unaumaliza kwa kushukuru Mungu kwanza kwa uhai na afya uliyo nayo wewe, na uwapendao. Ni wengi walitarajia kufika, lakini mipango ya Mungu haina makosa.
Nitaongea kama ninavyoongeaga na vijana wengi tukikutana kubadilishana mawazo..Nitaongea kama Sister Carol.
2017 umekua ni mwaka ambao personally nimesikia vilio vingi sana katika fani yangu ya ujasiriamali. Ingawa wengine wameweza kutafuta upenyo wa kubadilisha ‘challenge into opportunity’, wengi wameishia kufunga biashara, kubadilisha biashara, kurudi kuajiriwa kwa wale waliokua wamejiajiri na wengine kukata tamaa kabisa ya maisha.
Mzunguko wa fedha haupo kama ulivyo kua miaka 2 iliyopita, na kwa wasomi ni kitu kinachoeleweka kabisa lazima nchi ipitie mtikisiko kukiwa na major reforms kwenye sekta za biashara na uchumi. Nilisoma mwezi wa 9 au 10 kuwa zaidi ya biashara 7000 zimefungwa ndani ya mwaka mmoja. Nilijiuliza sana ‘what became of all those who depended on these businesses all the way down to the value chain?’.
Nilijifunza siku nyingi kuwa ukitaka biashara iwe sustainable, uongeze value kwa kushirikisha watu wengi zaidi kwenye chain. Kwa mfano, kwenye biashara ya matamasha ambayo wengi ndio mnanifahamu kupitia Nyama Choma Festival, tunajivunia kuwa sio tu ni biashara lakini tumeweza kuunganisha supply chain kutoka kwa mfugaji, mkulima, wauza nyanya na tangawizi sokoni, wafanya usafi, watu wa maturubai, viti, meza, vyombo vya usalama, vya afya..the list goes on.
Ndio maana jukumu la kuendesha hili tamasha ni kubwa mno na tunaamini kwa miaka 6 hatujaweza wenyewe bali kwa kudra za mwenyezi Mungu na neema zake pamoja na support kutoka kwa wananchi na wadau wetu.
Nakuandikia wewe mjasiriamali leo, ambae ulianza kama mimi, kwa juhudi na bidiii na mtaji wako MWENYEWE, no offence kwa wale ambao wamekua spoon fed, tena kuna ambao nawafahamu ‘wameboostiwa’ lakini mafanikio yao ni kutokana na juhudi walizoweka baada ya ‘kuboostiwa’. But I honestly have issues with arrogant condescending pompous people who did not knock down their own doors.
Nataka nikusisitizie kuwa haijalishi mara ngapi utaanguka, au nani alianza safari na wewe akakuacha au umepoteza mali ngapi, cha msingi ni nafsi yako inakwambia nini kuhusu dhamira yako. Dhamira yangu ni kufanya kazi kwa bidii, kuleta maendeleo kwa wanaonitegemea na wanaonizunguka. Huwa najitahidi kama nina furaha, basi wanaonizunguka wawe hivyo pia. This pushes me everyday, together with what I believe is my purpose, which is to aspire to inspire.
Sasa nikueleze tu tuliyopitia sisi kama Nyama Choma Festival mwaka huu, ujaribu kuona kama unaweza kupata inspiration au motivation kutokana na hili. Kujenga brand si jambo dogo, tumejitahidi, 7 years in 2018 ; we are beyond grateful for the run that we have had. We have seen the best and the worst. Kama nilivyosema, miaka 2 kidogo kama nchi (false modesty) tumetikisika kwenye mzunguko wa fedha, hata wadhamini nao mtikisiko umewaathiri. Haya makampuni ya bia na telecomms ambao ni big spenders kwenye sponsorship wamecut down sana marketing budgets zao.
So kwa mfano, TNCF ilikua inaendeshwa kwa 65% ya sponsorship fee na 35% ya makusanyo toka kwenye kiingilio getini. 2016/17 imekua ikiendeshwa na operating capital ya kampuni, na mwenye tamasha pamoja na 25% sponsorship fee na chochote kinachopatikana getini.
Kwa wachumi mtakua mmeelewa kabisa ilihitaji turnout kubwa kuwa na turnover kubwa. Haisadii pia kama brand umeijenga kwa standard fulani kwahiyo scaling back itaathiri quality of the event. 2016 kwanza tukasema kwasababu hali sio nzuri, tunapunguza Dar editions from 4 to 3 maana purchasing power ya watu pia imeshuka..ma-buckets na ma-ndafu hayanunuliwi kama yalivyokua yananunuliwa 2015.
Anyways, tulipitia changamoto nyingine ya crack down ya mamlaka ya kodi, si kwetu bali kwa washiriki wetu. Wengi wa washiriki wetu ni wajasiriamali wadogo au ndio wanajaribu, chochote wanachokipata pale ndio kinampa nguvu ya kwenda kufanya kikubwa zaidi. Utekelezaji wa makusanyo ikabidi wajasiriamali na wafanyabiashara wote nyama choma kuwa na mashine za EFD, failure of which walichukuliwa hatua kwa kupigwa fine. Hii iliwanyong’onyeza wajasiriamali wengi na tukapoteza wachoma nyama na washiriki wetu mashuhuri katika kushiriki tena kwa kuogopa fine maana ilikua sio kukosa mashine tu, hata kama unayo, umejisahau kutoa wakakukuta hata kwa mteja mmoja ilikua ni fine not less than 2.5 Mil TZS. Iliwaathiri pia sponsors ambao walikua wakishiriki wanauza na bidhaa zao pia so guaranteed return on investment.
So 2017 tukabadilisha ratiba na kufanya tamasha la kwanza Dar es Salaam 29th April..siku mvua KUBWA sana iliponyesha in years. Ile mvua ilikua historical, na Leaders Grounds bahati mbaya tulikua hatujashuhudia mvua ikinyesha kama maji yakijaa panakuwaje. It was horrible. Palifurika! First event of the year in Dar,( shimo lenu la hela) and this happens.
On top of that media partner wa kipindi hicho alituangusha ilikua tufanye media campaign kabambe lakini hadi Jumatano kabla ya event bado tulikua tunatafutana na MOU…labda promo zaidi ingesaidia.We were devastated. Not just because sisi kama sisi tulipata hasara ya 68 Mil+ ( mind you hamna sponsorship funds tunabeba budget wenyewe hapo na mdhamini mmoja mkubwa), but sababu hamna kitu huwa kinatuumiza kama mabanda ya nyama choma yakibaki na chakula. Kwetu sisi hapo ndio tunaona tumeshindwa kudeliver, even if the rain was out of our hands contrary to what people used to say about us eti tunastopisha mvua..smh.
Anyways, dusted ourselves off, head held high and marched on….so fast forward the next event in Dar..again ndio shimo letu hili. Tumepiga loss in April, we have 3 events to do before the Dar one..tulifanya..ila kwa mbinde. Ikaja ya Dar ya August, it wasn’t bad but it wasn’t good either, ndio sheria ya matamasha ilikua imeanza kutekelezwa, ikabidi tuzime mziki saa 7…tofauti na saa 8 au 9 tuliyokua tunaendaga.
Tukapiga moyo konde na kusema let’s keep pushing, na tuwaze namna gani tunaweza endelea kwenye fani aidha kwa kuscale back au kucome up na njia nyingine ya kuwafikia wateja wetu. Tabata BBQ Fever was born, tukasema sasa tunafanya nyama choma kwenye vitongoji. Tukafanya matayarisho yetu ya Tabata, ingawa tulitapeliwa uwanja at first (si kwa hela), watu tuliokua tunaongea nao kumbe sio wamiliki na baada ya mmiliki kujua kidogo ikawa problem..lol..anyway tuliisort tukafanya set up Friday, Saturday event.
Come Saturday, event is ongoing..tukafuatwa tuzime mziki na kusambaratisha wanachi saa 4 usiku. Kibali chetu kilisema Saa 6 usiku ndio mwisho. Hapo tukawa tumeingia loss ingine, because kwa wale kwenye event business 2 hours is a lot and can give you 10 Mil Tzs easily. So hadi hapo ikawa ni loss after loss.
Bado tukaendelea kupiga moyo konde, tukapambana na za mkoani, Mwanza, Arusha, Dodoma huku tunaendelea kurecover loss na tuko na sponsor wetu yule yule mmoja maskini hajawahi kututupa #TeamGreen. Tukawa tunajipa matumaini Dar 2nd of December walau tutapumua. Uwanja wa Leaders ukapigwa marufuku one week before our event, with non refundable expenses amounting to 23 Mil TZS. Tulitoa tamko na kuwafahamisha wateja wetu, tukaomba sana ushirikiano kutoka kwa washiriki na wahudhuriaji maana kama nilivyosema, nyama choma sio ya waandaji tu, kuna wengi mno wanaotegemea jukwaa hili na ndio maana ilibidi tuappeal to the masses to save this.
Tanganyika packers was the only option lakini kama ilivyo desturi ya Watanzania, huwapeleki tu venue mpya, we saw this tulivyohamishwa toka UDSM to Leaders the first time. Tukajitahidi kufanya matayarisho lakini siku ya siku, masupppliers kutoka wenye mabati, mobile toilets, tents walituangusha MNO.
Washiriki wetu walijaribu kupambana na MVUA kubwa tu na hata baada ya kunyeshewa mkaa na nyama waliamka tena mvua ilivyokata na kuendelea. Kuna wateja walikuja mvua inanyesha wanatembea kwenye mvua kuja kutusupport. Kuna wajasiriamali wadogo walifanya wawezalo kutokana na mazingira ili biashara iendelee.
9 Dec jambo la msingi nililo kuwa najiambia ni ‘ I just want this night to end’. Everything was just going WRONG. Mziki ukazimwa na DJ aliyekua anatake over sababu aliingia kwenye mfarakano na walinzi katika kujitambulisha wakakosana lugha. IT WAS A HORRIBLE DAY. So another loss incurred, brand suffered. Kesho yake bado uamke uwaze ‘what is the next step?’.
Nimetumia wiki moja kukaa na kupanga tena mawazo na ARI maana yataka ARI kuendelea. Bado naendelea kujipanga na team, lakini ninalofahamu ni QUITTING is NOT an option. Leo nimeamka, mdhamini wetu #TeamGreen amepledge tena for 2018, lakini yabidi kukaa chini na re-strategize. At least thats good news and we are hopeful. I want to insist on these things, choose your partners wisely..kuna ambao tuliwategemea lakini wametuangusha vibaya mno. Some support systems are just there for material things and when you have something, We are not friend-less for no reason. You might have better luck than some of us. If you are a woman, Some support systems because of their sexism and male chauvinistic behaviours will turn on you when you don’t agree with their shenanigans or do not accept defeat..they will even go to the length of tarnishing your brand and when they fail claim you did not ‘appreciate’ them hence the retaliation. The other is resilience to keep going..kama hujazungukwa na ambao wanakwambia ‘unaweza’ inabidi ujiambie mwenyewe.
Some will just want to watch you drown because you were a good swimmer, so ‘kama alikua anajua kuogelea mbona leo anazama’ kind of mentality.
This happened to us 6 years down the line, and we were broken. You will fall, you will rise but you cannot STOP. Kama wewe unasoma hii sasa hivi na ulikua ndio kwanza unaanza au umekutana na misuko suko please, first know your purpose. My purpose is to use what I have to uplift others, and because of that I keep going…no matter what you throw at me, I will stand up and keep walking. GOD gave me a bullet proof vest that only HE can penetrate. Find your purpose and let it drive you! let it be the reason for you to keep going everyday no matter what.
Sympathy? why not for those filled with compassion and empathy will reciprocate. Only the evil spirited will mock. Tunaonewa? Hell YES! Walk in our shoes and tell us that is not true. It doesn’t stop us though! We keep pushing! Against all odds! Nilienda kuappeal decision ya leaders nikawa rejected na kuishia kuzimia mbele za watu..did I stop? No! Niliomba nionewe huruma? NDIO! Sababu this is bigger than me…way bigger.
I take my failures in what I do seriously because if I fail..Aunt Asia na Muhsin wa mabati amefeli, if I fail, Imani wa tents amefeli, If I fail, Abraham wa sound system amefeli, if I fail, G4S, JKT SUMA, POLICE wamefeli, if I fail, Aggreko amefeli, if I fail, Mabanda ya Nyama Zaidi ya 10 na wafanyakazi sio chini ya 7 wanaotegemea kipato hicho wamefeli, if I fail wote waliowauzia chochote hawa mabanda na hawakumaliziwa hela zao wamefeli, if I fail, watoa huduma wote wamefeli, if I fail, mamlaka ya kodi imefeli, if I fail my team imefeli, if I fail my family, my two beautiful daughters wamefeli, if I fail, my country has failed. I CANNOT AFFORD TO FAIL, and when I do, I CANNOT NOT TRY AGAIN. That is my purpose. All the best with yours!

 

Carol Ndosi
🇹🇿 |Development Advocate|#GlobalGoalsTZ Champion|Feminist|MWF ‘16|Social & Biz Entrepreneur @MaMaendeleo @nyamachomafest @bongofesttz @thelaunchpadtz

How To Prepare For Your First Gynecologist Visit

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The first visit to the gynecologist marks a big transition in a woman’s life, but it can also be daunting if you don’t know what to expect or do about it.

The first visit to the gynecologist is the hardest, it leaves many women feeling confused, anxious, nervous, and scared of what’s to come. However, that mix of emotions isn’t necessary.

Going to the gynecologist is a completely normal, natural, and necessary part of life that every woman does. There is no need to feel scared, self-conscious, worried, or anything of that nature because your gynecologist won’t judge you, and will do their absolute best to make you comfortable.

Read on to learn everything you need to know before your first visit to the gynecologist!

Age is just a number

Doctor Treating Teenage Girl

When it comes to visiting the gynecologist, you’ll start off in the waiting room, and when you look around you can see girls as young as 13 to women who are much older.

Don’t be startled thinking you are late to the game because you are much older than the others in there. As well, don’t be scared if you are much younger than all the others.

When it comes to visiting the gynecologist, you become part of a club filled with women of different ages who are there because they have started to have sex, who are going just as a precaution, who are going because of irregular periods, abnormally painful period pains and cramps, abdominal issues, or if they are prone to vaginal infections.

Women also go when they’re trying to get pregnant, or are pregnant, so there will be women of various ages and for various reasons.

How to prepare for your visit

You need to book in advance for your gynecologist appointment, which is expected. However, you need to track your period so you can book your gynecologist appointment for when your menstrual cycle is all done.

Luckily, there are tons of apps to help you track your period so you can see when you are supposed to get it. Sadly, many women, like myself, have irregular periods which means it is very difficult to track.

This can cause difficulty with making your appointment at a good time, so keep in mind that you have to make an educated guess as to when would be a good time to visit. If you guess wrong, just call and reschedule, the gynecologists office you see will be completely understanding.

Many women don’t know how to dress for this appointment, some feel the need to dress up, while others just want to wear pajamas.

However, there is a trick for the outfit you should wear to your gynecologist appointment, and it will make your first visit much easier. Wear the comfiest clothes you own because you will have to take off everything you are wearing minus your socks.

If you get cold easily, or want to cover up as much as possible then wear knee high socks. As well, if you are going just for a mammogram, wear a shirt and pants so that way you can keep your pants on, and you will only have to take your shirt and bra off.

Understandably, many women also fixate on ensuring they are as clean down there as possible. Don’ t panic thinking you need to spend hours washing down there or even take 3 showers that day.

Do your usual routine, shower, use soap, and then just get on with your day. This way, gynecologists see you as your normal self down there, and can get all the samples they will need without them being damaged, or missing. For your first appointment, it is okay to be nervous and scared, but make sure you don’t over clean or douche because that will eliminate all samples.

As well, don’t feel self conscious or like you need to do some hair removal down there. None of that matters to your gynecologist, so just do as you usually do.

Your gynecologist doesn’t care in the slightest about how much or how little hair you have down there. All they care about is doing their job and making sure you are healthy.

So do not panic, your first appointment will go perfectly as long as you are honest, open, and just your self personality wise, and down there too.

A big question many women have before their first gynecologist appointment is whether or not they can have sex the night before, or even a week before. The answer is yes, of course you can.

Your gynecologist may be able to tell you had sex recently, but they won’t care in the slightest and it won’t interfere with your tests either. As well, you have to be honest about your sexual history, and everything else. So don’t put your sex life on hold because of this appointment.

Lastly, the most important way to prepare your self for your first visit to the gynecologist is to prepare mentally. You need to remember to relax, remain calm, not to stress, and that every woman has to do this.

Don’t be self conscious, nervous, or anxious as your gynecologist isn’t going to be judging you, or anything else, they are doing their job and they do the same things to countless other women too. As well, you have to be prepared to answer all their questions honestly and to discuss various topics.

What the appointment will entail

medical equipment in gynecologal consultation room

Like any doctor’s office, you sign in and then wait. After this is done,you will either sit in the examination room, or your gynecologists office where they will ask you questions about your medical history, your family’s medical history, any medication you are on or have taken, if you drink or do recreational drugs, your sexual history, and even your partners (past and present) sexual history.

Remember to answer honestly and to talk freely about everything. While they ask these questions they will also ask other questions or make pleasant and relatable conversation to help you relax and ease you into your appointment, especially if it’s your first visit. This is also a good place to ask them any questions you have, or to share any of your thoughts, concerns, worries, feelings etc.

After this, they will leave the room, give you a robe to put on and tell you that you need to take off all of your clothes. There are four exams that they will do, sometimes they only do certain ones, or sometimes they do all of them. While they do the exams you can also talk about any thoughts, feelings, concerns, or even about how your results are.

The general physical exam, is where they take your blood pressure, weight, and height.

The breast exam, is when they will use their hands to see if there are any lumps or abnormal discharge occurring.

The pap smear exam, is when they use a brush to scrape off a few cells from your cervix, they then send the samples to their lab. This test is used to see if you have any signs of cervical or other kinds of cancer.

The pelvic exam, is only done to women who are sexually active or to women who have severe abdominal pains. This exam involves them sticking 1 or 2 fingers in your vagina while pressing on your abdomen with their other hand, in order to feel your cervix, ovaries, and womb.

For the pap smear and pelvic exam, they get you to lie down and put your feet on stirrups while they feel and look at the outer part of your vagina, they then use a speculum to open your vagina to look and feel inside.

As scary as this sounds, it is pain free and is nothing to worry about, instead, it is something that must be done at least once a year to ensure you are healthy.

What to talk to your gynecologist about

Female Consultant Meeting With Teenage Patient

The first visit to the gynecologist is the hardest, and scariest. That being said, it also will leave you clueless, and not to sure of what to say, ask, or even expect. When it comes to any questions you have, ask them.

Feel free to tell them everything about your sex life, health, periods, how you feel about birth control, any strange smells, stomach problems, or even your home and work life. They will either answer your questions or refer you to another doctor. Whatever questions you have, ask, never google or self diagnose.

As alarming as going to the gynecologist for the very first time seems, as soon as you get there and go through it all, you’ll realise that there’s no need to stress, be scared, or nervous.

In fact, these exams and tests are supposed to reduce any stress or worry as it is ensuring that you are healthy, and that things are going well for you. Feel free to share your thoughts below, and good luck at your first gyno appointment!

 

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Birth Control Pill Side Effects You Must Know About

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There are many pros and cons to using the infamous birth control pill. Read on to learn all about the birth control pill side effects you should pay attention to.

Thousands of women take the birth control pill and assume that it is safe due to it being so easily accessible. However, this isn’t really the case; in fact, the birth control pill can really mess with your life.

The sad part is that women don’t even seem to talk about the reality of this ‘magic’ pill that helps to prevent pregnancy and doctors don’t tell us all the risks associated with it either. It is as if talking about this topic is taboo, but it shouldn’t be, and every woman who is on the pill or is thinking about going on the pill has the right to know the health risks associated with it.

Despite the major improvements to the pill over the years, which have technically made the pill safer to take, there are still plenty of underlying risks and dangers to it that remain hidden and affect us daily.

What is the birth control pill?

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The birth control pill is a pill that you take once a day, preferably at the same time daily, helps prevent pregnancies and is up to 99.9% effective. Many women, once they hear this, are drawn in and ready to start taking it as it seems to eliminate the need for condoms.

Although it does not help to prevent against STDs, many women are in favor of the pill to make their love lives easier. It seems that we only hear the good about the pill, and the risks that we do hear about, we are guaranteed won’t actually happen to us, which makes no sense because the risks can happen to everyone—and they do happen.

The pill is able to prevent pregnancies because it has a certain amount of engineered estrogen and progestin hormones along with other chemicals. In simple terms, these hormones then control when your period occurs by stopping ovulation until you take a week off from the pill by taking the sugar pills, which do nothing, and allow for your period to occur. Then, when your period is done, you go back to the actual pills.

The mild, but still horrible side effects

These symptoms may seem like a breeze, and are supposed to fade away within a few months of taking these pills. However, they can end up being permanent, lasting much longer and altering too much of your behavior and body to the point where damage is hard to reverse if not irreversible.

Some of the most common and mild side effects are nausea, breast tenderness, an increase in breast size, bloating, weight gain, water retention, headaches, increased or decreased appetite, mood swings and changes in behavior and emotions.

In addition, there is the risk of getting acne, bad looking skin, cellulite, unhealthy looking hair, a decreased libido and irregular bleeding or spotting. All of these side effects of the pill are supposed to last for 1-3 months, but that can and does vary depending on the person’s body and what brand of birth control pills the person takes.

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All of these side effects are caused due to the increase and decrease of hormones. They are also caused by all the changes your body goes through due to the pill; this then creates a vicious chain of events, which causes more changes in the levels of certain hormones and chemicals within your body.

The severe side effects

As appealing as the pill may sound to people who are sexually active, there are other contraceptives, such as condoms, which can be used to prevent pregnancies. Condoms don’t feature any of the side effects that are associated with the pill since they are not filled with chemicals and man-made hormones. They especially won’t give you these severe and very dangerous health risks and symptoms.

Some of the most dangerous side effects of the pill are an increased risk of cervical and breast cancer, an increased risk of having a heart attack or stroke, migraines, high blood pressure, gallbladder diseases, infertility, liver tumors, a decrease in bone density, a yeast overgrowth or infection, depression and blood clots.

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Due to all the chemicals and hormones in these pills, which alter your body in a way that is unnatural, the risk of many diseases and health problems become very high and very dangerous. The birth control pills destroy beneficial and important bacteria in your intestines, and after years of taking these pills, the results end up with you having an imbalanced, unnatural inner body. The longer you stay on the pill, the worse the chances of getting all these health risks and side effects become.

Even when you go off the pill you will still have lots of health issues and hurdles to jump over. By going off the pill (especially if you have been on it for a very long time), you will have to go through acne, severe weight gain and behavioral issues due to your body being in shock from not having all the chemicals in your body while it will also be trying to flush it all out.

It is safer to go off of the pill than it is to stay on it. The longer you are on the pill, the worse the risks and side effects become while you are on it, and the worse the withdrawal, chances of the risks, and side effects will be when you come off of it.

There are plenty of other health risks and dangers, but these are the most common ones. It is important to know all of the facts about any medication, especially this one since it alters your hormones and it can change your life for the worse, if you have any comments, feel free to share!

 

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Healthy Diet Secrets: How To Go Paleo

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You keep hearing about the Paleo diet, but do you know how to actually follow it? It’s not as scary as it might seem. Here’s how to go Paleo in a few steps.

When you first heard about people going Paleo, maybe you thought it was all about meat. The stereotype is that followers of the Paleo diet tend to eat like dinosaurs or cavemen – all meat, all the time, not much else.

But that’s not actually the case. The definition of the Paleo diet? Eating more protein and fiber than you are probably used to and getting healthier in the process.

In other words, you eat super healthy food in its whole state that you already know is really good for you, from protein to beef, chicken and fish to produce to healthy fats (think avocado and almond butter and olive oil).

You’re taking the whole gluten-free thing a whole step further and you’re not going to eat any grains whatsoever. And you’re definitely cutting out the typical junk food you’ve been used to eating.

If you want more energy and to just generally feel amazing every single day, which you probably do (because who wouldn’t?), then you definitely want to follow the Paleo diet.

But if you’re sad about saying goodbye to gluten-filled treats and sugar, don’t be. You might just find this whole Paleo diet is just what you need. Here’s how to go Paleo.

1) Throw out processed food

The first rule of going Paleo? You definitely overhaul your cupboard and fridge and throw out any and all processed foods. That goes for sugar, too.

You probably know that you shouldn’t eat processed food on a regular basis, but if you truly want to follow the Paleo diet, then you have to walk the talk.

Why do you want to avoid this stuff? Because processed food has tons of ingredients that you really don’t want to put into your body, from sugar to way too much salt.

The thing is that when you go Paleo, you have to rely on your own kitchen and your own cooking skills since you can’t exactly just heat up a box of processed tomato sauce and make a pot of pasta and call it a night.

But it doesn’t have to be hard. Make easy meals based on simple components like salmon, a sweet potato, and some broccoli and you’ll be good to go.

2) Rethink what you eat for breakfast

When people first go Paleo, they’re super confused about what to eat first thing in the morning. After all, you’re probably used to eating a pretty standard breakfast, from toast with peanut butter to a bowl of granola and milk.

But a Paleo breakfast is much different. It’s got more protein and healthy fats and less refined carbs (aka white bread). But don’t worry, you can definitely make a Paleo breakfast. Think eggs and steak or bacon with some sweet potatoes and greens. Easy.

If you think that you’re going to feel much better starting the day off this way, you’re absolutely right. And since you know you need breakfast to function and focus, that’s music to your ears.

3) Eat more protein

If you think that the Paleo diet is about protein, well, you’re totally right. But it’s about choosing the right proteins. A true Paleo diet plan includes a variety of protein sources from chicken to fish to beef, and the idea is that the beef should definitely be grass-fed (aka the animals feed on grass, not grains).

If that’s out of your budget, though, don’t worry – it’s generally believed that it’s okay to start smaller and buy what you can.

4) Focus on fat

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Unfortunately, we’ve been pretty terrified of fat since the 1980s. It’s like we’re all living in a horror movie and fat is the evil demon everyone is running from.

But we don’t have to be afraid of fat anymore. In fact, fat is totally your BFF. Go for avocado, nut butter (peanuts aren’t Paleo so you want to get into almond butter), nuts, and good quality oils like olive oil. Salmon counts too. As long as you include a fat source at each meal and learn the proper portions, you don’t have to worry about going overboard.

So why should you eat fat? You will not only feel better and have a great time focusing right now but the long-term health effects are pretty awesome, too: you can stop yourself from getting anything from dementia to mental health problems and heart disease.

5) Don’t forget carbs

The stereotype is definitely that following the Paleo diet means not eating any carbs at all. That couldn’t be more wrong.

Yeah, you’re not going to eat bread or pasta, but it turns out that veggies actually have carbs. Yes, really.

Potatoes (both white and sweet) totally count as healthy carbs, and Paleo people definitely go nuts over plantains and all kinds of squashes.

You can also work apples, blueberries, and bananas into your diet. Compare these stats: one sweet potato has 26 grams of carbs, one banana has 27, and 1 cup of blueberries has 21 grams.

Experts definitely agree that you need carbs in order to be healthy, since they help you with sleep and they keep you in a good mood and they help your thyroid, too.

But everyone is different so the best way for you to follow a Paleo diet is to see how many carbs work for you. You’ll know when you feel really good and energetic and just feel like it’s all working well.

6) Believe in the lifestyle

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Going Paleo is actually all about following a new healthy lifestyle. It’s not all about steak and bacon and eggs (although, of course, those foods totally are a part of it, too).

The idea of the Paleo diet is that you have to make it work for you. So that means there are tons of gray area foods, from dairy to rice. If you can eat those foods and feel good, then you should definitely eat them.

If you find they make you feel sick, then cut them out. Basically, listen to yourself and you’ll never be steered in the wrong direction.

Following the Paleo diet also means making sure you get enough sleep every single night. The cool part is that all these things totally work together.

So once you cut out the sugar and junk food from your diet and start eating whole foods that are really good for you, you will definitely naturally see a difference in your energy levels and how well you sleep.

But another huge part of being Paleo? That would be learning how to deal when you have a stressful time at work or something’s going on in your personal life.

Making a change in your lifestyle is always tough and tricky at first. You question whether you can really handle it or if you should go back to your old gluten-eating and pizza-loving ways.

But you can absolutely handle the Paleo diet because you can make decisions that work for you. And the truth is that once you see how great you feel, well, you won’t ever want to look back.

Do you follow a Paleo diet? Have you ever wanted to try it? Share your thoughts with us in the comments below!

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5 Ways To Save Money For Your Dream Vacation

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People tend to push aside the vacation they want because of money—or lack thereof. By using these tips, you can save money and have the vacation you have always dreamed of.

Everyone has a bucket list—or at least a list of places that they want to travel to. Whether you want to visit the Amazon Rainforest, see the Northern Lights, go on a safari in Africa, climb and explore Mayan ruins, explore the pyramids of Egypt or hike the gorgeous mountains of British Columbia, you will have to save money. This often prevents people from doing what they truly want to do.

Let’s face it: traveling is expensive, which easily deters people from even considering crossing these places off their bucket lists. However, traveling to whatever destination your heart desires can easily be done. All you need to do is use the right methods to save for your travels.

Don’t sit back and let life pass you by while you wait, and definitely do not let your dreams and exciting things you want to do in life slip past you. Don’t struggle to fit travel in; incorporate it into your life and money plans with these easy and effective tips and tricks on how to save money.

1. Change stash

Piggy bank on travel tourist map

Having a system where all your change or even extra bills go is a way to ensure that you are putting money away every time you spend as long as you use cash. This method works wonders because no one likes carrying around change.

By doing this, you are also less likely to buy something small because, psychologically, you won’t want to break any bills or use your credit card for said item. The bonus to this is that you won’t even realize the amount of money that is adding up as long as you don’t touch it and you just put excess change and the occasional bills in. You will have a lot of money saved up by the time you are ready to count it.

2. Hunt for deals

Hunting for deals is a smart way to save some cash: why pay more when you can pay less for the same thing? When buying everyday items, it is a good idea to wait for items to go on sale, look at other stores that offer the same thing or use coupons.

The money you save on the necessities you are buying will add up faster than you think. Just remember to avoid buying items you don’t need. Similarly, when booking your trip, use sites such as Trivago or Kayak as they will also help you find great deals for your airfare and hotels with offers from countless other sites.

3. Luxuries vs. necessities

Portrait of a young teenager tourist visiting the city and carrying paper shopping bags while leaning on a fashion store window

In order to save up for what you really want, you need to realize that there’s a difference between necessities and wants. For example, instead of buying new shoes, purses or clothes, save that money. Similarly, you can always pack a lunch with snacks, which will not only help you to stay healthy, but will also help you keep your piggy bank full. The same applies to coffee: if you can make it at home, then go with that because it will save you money and remove the temptation to buy it on your way to work.

4. Credit cards

These can be evil: you go to the mall, say you’re going to buy one thing, but then buy a whole bunch of items and don’t pay too much attention to how much you’ve spent. You then feel like you can keep spending thanks to this small piece of plastic, which really only wants your money in reality. Once again, this is where cash comes in handy: by using cash, you will realize how much you are spending, and will not feel the urge and temptation to spend as much.

The only benefit to credit cards is that you get benefits such as cash back or those that allow for cheaper flights thanks to air miles. Some stores also offer credit cards, so if you are going to buy something from a particular store regularly, use the card for that store as it will give you points that you can use for future necessities, meaning you won’t spend actual money on that item. Just remember not to spend money on items that you don’t actually need; acquiring points will take a long time, but it will also help with future buys and future plans.

5. Money challenges

Cheerful woman in the street drinking morning coffee in sunshine light

If you insist on having Starbucks every day and not giving up that luxury, then challenge yourself every month to go without buying an overly expensive coffee for a week. Who knows: you may actually like how much money you save and might continue the challenge.

This challenge can be done with a variety of things, and is an effective method when it comes to saving money, making you realize how much you spend on certain things, and how you can continue to save even more money.

These tips and tricks on how to save money are easy and effective because all the money you’re saving technically still comes from your job and income, but it isn’t involving you saving money from where there is no money.

The money you would be saving comes from other places you already spend money, meaning it isn’t money you technically don’t have. All you have to do is save, and not touch the money you’ve saved up for travel.

Live your dreams, be happy and take the vacation you have always wanted. Do not let traveling pass by you. Use these tips and tricks to save for what you really want. If you have any more tips and tricks on how to save money for your dream travel destinations, feel free to share!

 

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5 Ways To Save Money For Your Dream Vacation

On By TunessaIn Entertainment, LifestyleLeave a comment

People tend to push aside the vacation they want because of money—or lack thereof. By using these tips, you can save money and have the vacation you have always dreamed of.

Everyone has a bucket list—or at least a list of places that they want to travel to. Whether you want to visit the Amazon Rainforest, see the Northern Lights, go on a safari in Africa, climb and explore Mayan ruins, explore the pyramids of Egypt or hike the gorgeous mountains of British Columbia, you will have to save money. This often prevents people from doing what they truly want to do.
Let’s face it: traveling is expensive, which easily deters people from even considering crossing these places off their bucket lists. However, traveling to whatever destination your heart desires can easily be done. All you need to do is use the right methods to save for your travels.
Don’t sit back and let life pass you by while you wait, and definitely do not let your dreams and exciting things you want to do in life slip past you. Don’t struggle to fit travel in; incorporate it into your life and money plans with these easy and effective tips and tricks on how to save money.
1. Change stash
Piggy bank on travel tourist map
Having a system where all your change or even extra bills go is a way to ensure that you are putting money away every time you spend as long as you use cash. This method works wonders because no one likes carrying around change.
By doing this, you are also less likely to buy something small because, psychologically, you won’t want to break any bills or use your credit card for said item. The bonus to this is that you won’t even realize the amount of money that is adding up as long as you don’t touch it and you just put excess change and the occasional bills in. You will have a lot of money saved up by the time you are ready to count it.
2. Hunt for deals

Hunting for deals is a smart way to save some cash: why pay more when you can pay less for the same thing? When buying everyday items, it is a good idea to wait for items to go on sale, look at other stores that offer the same thing or use coupons.
The money you save on the necessities you are buying will add up faster than you think. Just remember to avoid buying items you don’t need. Similarly, when booking your trip, use sites such as Trivago or Kayak as they will also help you find great deals for your airfare and hotels with offers from countless other sites.
3. Luxuries vs. necessities
Portrait of a young teenager tourist visiting the city and carrying paper shopping bags while leaning on a fashion store window
In order to save up for what you really want, you need to realize that there’s a difference between necessities and wants. For example, instead of buying new shoes, purses or clothes, save that money. Similarly, you can always pack a lunch with snacks, which will not only help you to stay healthy, but will also help you keep your piggy bank full. The same applies to coffee: if you can make it at home, then go with that because it will save you money and remove the temptation to buy it on your way to work.
4. Credit cards
These can be evil: you go to the mall, say you’re going to buy one thing, but then buy a whole bunch of items and don’t pay too much attention to how much you’ve spent. You then feel like you can keep spending thanks to this small piece of plastic, which really only wants your money in reality. Once again, this is where cash comes in handy: by using cash, you will realize how much you are spending, and will not feel the urge and temptation to spend as much.
The only benefit to credit cards is that you get benefits such as cash back or those that allow for cheaper flights thanks to air miles. Some stores also offer credit cards, so if you are going to buy something from a particular store regularly, use the card for that store as it will give you points that you can use for future necessities, meaning you won’t spend actual money on that item. Just remember not to spend money on items that you don’t actually need; acquiring points will take a long time, but it will also help with future buys and future plans.
5. Money challenges
Cheerful woman in the street drinking morning coffee in sunshine light
If you insist on having Starbucks every day and not giving up that luxury, then challenge yourself every month to go without buying an overly expensive coffee for a week. Who knows: you may actually like how much money you save and might continue the challenge.
This challenge can be done with a variety of things, and is an effective method when it comes to saving money, making you realize how much you spend on certain things, and how you can continue to save even more money.
These tips and tricks on how to save money are easy and effective because all the money you’re saving technically still comes from your job and income, but it isn’t involving you saving money from where there is no money.
The money you would be saving comes from other places you already spend money, meaning it isn’t money you technically don’t have. All you have to do is save, and not touch the money you’ve saved up for travel.
Live your dreams, be happy and take the vacation you have always wanted. Do not let traveling pass by you. Use these tips and tricks to save for what you really want. If you have any more tips and tricks on how to save money for your dream travel destinations, feel free to share!

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5 Reasons Why You Should Consider Travelling Alone

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Have you ever considered travelling alone but you’re scared of taking that leap? Read on to find out why we should all experience a solo trip at least once in our lives.

Even the thought of travelling alone can seem extremely daunting. There’s no one to hold your hand or the ease the pressure when things get stressful. And depending on the type of person you are, it can get very lonely at times.

Although travelling with friends or family is a blast and you’re sure to have a great time, it can sometimes feel a bit predictable, and often means that you have no control in what you really want to do.

If you’re travelling with a group this can cause conflict and unwanted drama for the simple reason that every one of you wants to go out and do your own thing.

Yet that’s not really possible on a group trip. That’s why there are so many benefits to travelling on your own; the total control and freedom means that you won’t ever feel like you’re missing out. You have the final word every time. So yes, it can seem scary and even nauseating, but it’s definitely worth it.

1. It’s more convenient

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Travelling alone is so much more convenient than travelling in a group. Firstly, you all have to compromise on a time, place and the duration of the trip. Inevitably there will be arguments as everyone has their own preference.

It means someone will definitely be unhappy about the decision but will go along with it anyway. And there’s nothing worse than when you know your friend isn’t completely enjoying the trip.

There will always be challenges and unnecessary problems when making group plans. If you find yourself with no one available to go on a trip, it means that it’s time for you to go solo.

2. You’re in control

Isn’t it amazing to do whatever you want whenever you want without having to compromise? And if there’s something you don’t want to do, then obviously you can pass on that without offending anyone.

It’s ideal if you have a bucket list that only you are dying to delve into. Everyone likes different things, so just because your friends wouldn’t be interested, it doesn’t mean that it should hold you back. This is the trip where all your dreams and goals can be accomplished without anyone or anything getting in the way.

3. You have ‘me’ time

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The main reason for a trip is to just get away from the stresses of life and completely relax for a week or longer. Work, friends, relationships – it can all become very hectic.

It’s OK to want some time to yourself. The ones who care about you the most will understand your need for freedom and will definitely still be there when you get back.

A solo trip will give you the peace and quiet you have been craving while allowing you some time to think about your own problems. Sometimes that’s what we need from time to time. Just like a yoga session, it will help clear your mind and put your thoughts into perspective.

4. Meet new people

When you’re travelling in a group or even with one other person, you become less approachable because others can see that already have company. But if you’re alone and in an unfamiliar place, it’s more likely that people will talk to you. The thought of travelling to a different Country and having to ask for directions is terrifying for most of us.

We’re used to being in our own comfort zone and when we have to step out of it and do something like this, it can seem overwhelming. The thing to remember is that you’re not the only one travelling alone, there will be tons of other people in the same boat.

If you remember that, you’ll feel less afraid. Strangers will likely talk to you when you stop for a coffee or when you’re waiting for a train – each of them with their own story to tell. You’ll definitely meet some interesting people and may even make a new friend.

5. You’ll learn about yourself

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If you ever feel like you’re slowly losing yourself, a solo trip is the best way to find yourself again. You’ll discover the reason behind the trip, whether it may be to find your independence or to have some alone time.

You will realize that you are good company and you enjoy spending time with your own thoughts. It’s refreshing not having to make conversation or join in discussions, and simply just sit on a tranquil beach and appreciate the sounds, smells and the view in front of you without any interruptions.

Sometimes we forget that these are the things that make a trip so worthwhile. Originally, you might have planned the trip to clear your head, but along the way you will discover more than you bargained for. All in all, if travelling alone terrifies you, it doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do it. It just gives you more reason to get over that fear and enjoy what will no doubt be the most invigorating, rewarding and unforgettable vacation you could ever imagine!

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Family Issues: How To Get Along With His Sister

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This is the complete guide on how to get along with his sister. It can help you not only to get along with her, but to become best friends as well!

Family introductions are so awkward, and it is stressful enough pleasing the parents. No one thinks about pleasing his sister.

It seems like her emotions aren’t up for debate because the parents are the main people to please. Unbeknownst to you, her feelings do count.

She might pick up things his parents cannot, and those flaws could cost you the relationship or cool points with his parents. Many don’t understand how to get along with his sister. Luckily, we’ll show you how.

Is there a perfect time?

one man and two women sitting at the table

The moment you and he morph into a couple, the next step is to meet each other’s family. This is where couples take the next step and announce exclusivity.

After all, a family interaction after one or two dates becomes pointless if you’re not serious about him. When it’s his sister’s turn to meet you, it should be in person not over the phone, Skype, or social media.

Face-to-face interactions provide a personal touch not found online or over the phone. The sister has connections to the immediate and extended family. Learning how to get along with his sister can influence how his family perceives you.

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It never hurts to chat with your boyfriend about his sister. A great first step in learning how to get along with his sister, consulting the boyfriend about his sister in advance is critical.

The answers to questions such as pet peeves, sensitive topics, interests, and behavior will provide an idea of how to approach her. Discuss this once more before seeing her in person.

How to get along with his sister

Don’t enter this encounter in interview mode, date mode, or parents’ mode. This is his sister, so relaxation is necessary.

The conversation should flow smoothly taking turns speaking about various things and asking each other questions. Begin with basic questions like name, school, and hobbies, and let the conversation steer itself. Likewise, being a good listener is worthwhile. The goal is to find common interests.

Consequently, the boyfriend cannot be present when the girlfriend-sister conversation occurs. While you’re at it, don’t let him be a topic of conversation either. This meeting is about the two of you and discussing your great boyfriend won’t impress her. She knows him as her brother, and the outpouring will seem fake to her.

Attitude

Multiracial group of friends having a coffee together

A great first impression for his sister doesn’t equal making a great first impression for his parents or your boyfriend. If you dress up, use dinner etiquette, and say the right things, the sister won’t buy it.

She can smell fakery a mile away, and this will send her senses into overdrive. Instead, impress her by acting like yourself. A nice, genuine attitude showcases an appealing nature. Don’t turn into a doormat, but don’t turn into a diva either.

Clothes

Casual clothing is the best approach to winning his sister over. Tread carefully with graphic tees; some tees are offensive.

Select tees with safe choices such as animals or positive quotes. Business clothing is fine if you are visiting her after work. Otherwise, business attire displays ‘high society’ or ‘stuck up’ attitudes.

Clothes showing the butt, belly, and cleavage must remain in the closet. These clothes are sure to become ammunition to break you and him up.

Next step

After talking, it should evolve into action. Spend some time with his sister away from the home environment. A different environment brings out a different side to her.

Try the mall, the gym, the restaurant, the store, the movies, the park, the spa, or a sports event as an example. Continue to search for common interests. In the same vein, she will understand your habits.

In contrast, observe the boyfriend and his sister’s interactions. While this is a different take on how to get along with his sister, the interaction displays their harmony.

It also speaks volumes about how highly the boyfriend respects his sister’s choices about his dating habits. The answer will reveal another layer about how to manage his sister.

How to get along with his sister’s concerns

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In case the girlfriend-sister relationship gets shaky, it’s vital to understand her concerns. She has to share her brother with you, and she might feel you’re coming in to break it up.

Communicate those concerns to her and assure her that you won’t tear them apart. Prove it by giving your boyfriend space to hang out with her.

A second concern may deal with skepticism and negativity toward you based on her brother’s past relationships. Encourage open-mindedness to her so she can give you a chance.

Other concerns include not being good enough for her brother and/or taking her personal problems out on you. Likewise, she should understand your concerns too. Communicate your concerns to her. Besides, communication is a two-way street.

The don’ts (if you want to get along with his sister)

Besides the don’ts previously given, do not trash your boyfriend in front of his sister. She can use this information to break you and your boyfriend up.

In addition, keep the flirtatious attitude in check. Flirtations around the boyfriend make him and his sister uncomfortable.

If flirtations are unacceptable, making out in front of her is definitely a no-no. Show respect and not do this. Finally, arguing with the boyfriend in front of her is disrespectful. This forces the sister to choose sides. Regardless of which person, she chooses, someone ends up mad. The argument escalates instead of reaching a conclusion.

When you chose to date him, you chose his sister too. Her significance isn’t diminishing as the relationship grows. If the boyfriend turns into a husband, she will evolve into your sister-in-law.

Likewise, it’s unlikely the boyfriend won’t cut her loose because you can’t stand her. Therefore, give the relationship a chance to blossom by learning how to get along with his sister. She won’t be your bestie overnight, but at least she will appreciate considering her emotions in this situation.

Do you boyfriend’s sister drive you crazy? Does she like you? Do you like her? Talk about your frustrations in the comments section.

Regardless of whether you comment, take this helpful information to your social media channels. Valuable information such as this deserves widespread commendation across all social media platforms.

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