Family Issues: How To Get Along With His Sister
This is the complete guide on how to get along with his sister. It can help you not only to get along with her, but to become best friends as well!
Family introductions are so awkward, and it is stressful enough pleasing the parents. No one thinks about pleasing his sister.
It seems like her emotions aren’t up for debate because the parents are the main people to please. Unbeknownst to you, her feelings do count.
She might pick up things his parents cannot, and those flaws could cost you the relationship or cool points with his parents. Many don’t understand how to get along with his sister. Luckily, we’ll show you how.
Is there a perfect time?
The moment you and he morph into a couple, the next step is to meet each other’s family. This is where couples take the next step and announce exclusivity.
After all, a family interaction after one or two dates becomes pointless if you’re not serious about him. When it’s his sister’s turn to meet you, it should be in person not over the phone, Skype, or social media.
Face-to-face interactions provide a personal touch not found online or over the phone. The sister has connections to the immediate and extended family. Learning how to get along with his sister can influence how his family perceives you.
It never hurts to chat with your boyfriend about his sister. A great first step in learning how to get along with his sister, consulting the boyfriend about his sister in advance is critical.
The answers to questions such as pet peeves, sensitive topics, interests, and behavior will provide an idea of how to approach her. Discuss this once more before seeing her in person.
How to get along with his sister
Don’t enter this encounter in interview mode, date mode, or parents’ mode. This is his sister, so relaxation is necessary.
The conversation should flow smoothly taking turns speaking about various things and asking each other questions. Begin with basic questions like name, school, and hobbies, and let the conversation steer itself. Likewise, being a good listener is worthwhile. The goal is to find common interests.
Consequently, the boyfriend cannot be present when the girlfriend-sister conversation occurs. While you’re at it, don’t let him be a topic of conversation either. This meeting is about the two of you and discussing your great boyfriend won’t impress her. She knows him as her brother, and the outpouring will seem fake to her.
A great first impression for his sister doesn’t equal making a great first impression for his parents or your boyfriend. If you dress up, use dinner etiquette, and say the right things, the sister won’t buy it.
She can smell fakery a mile away, and this will send her senses into overdrive. Instead, impress her by acting like yourself. A nice, genuine attitude showcases an appealing nature. Don’t turn into a doormat, but don’t turn into a diva either.
Casual clothing is the best approach to winning his sister over. Tread carefully with graphic tees; some tees are offensive.
Select tees with safe choices such as animals or positive quotes. Business clothing is fine if you are visiting her after work. Otherwise, business attire displays ‘high society’ or ‘stuck up’ attitudes.
Clothes showing the butt, belly, and cleavage must remain in the closet. These clothes are sure to become ammunition to break you and him up.
After talking, it should evolve into action. Spend some time with his sister away from the home environment. A different environment brings out a different side to her.
Try the mall, the gym, the restaurant, the store, the movies, the park, the spa, or a sports event as an example. Continue to search for common interests. In the same vein, she will understand your habits.
In contrast, observe the boyfriend and his sister’s interactions. While this is a different take on how to get along with his sister, the interaction displays their harmony.
It also speaks volumes about how highly the boyfriend respects his sister’s choices about his dating habits. The answer will reveal another layer about how to manage his sister.
How to get along with his sister’s concerns
In case the girlfriend-sister relationship gets shaky, it’s vital to understand her concerns. She has to share her brother with you, and she might feel you’re coming in to break it up.
Communicate those concerns to her and assure her that you won’t tear them apart. Prove it by giving your boyfriend space to hang out with her.
A second concern may deal with skepticism and negativity toward you based on her brother’s past relationships. Encourage open-mindedness to her so she can give you a chance.
Other concerns include not being good enough for her brother and/or taking her personal problems out on you. Likewise, she should understand your concerns too. Communicate your concerns to her. Besides, communication is a two-way street.
The don’ts (if you want to get along with his sister)
Besides the don’ts previously given, do not trash your boyfriend in front of his sister. She can use this information to break you and your boyfriend up.
In addition, keep the flirtatious attitude in check. Flirtations around the boyfriend make him and his sister uncomfortable.
If flirtations are unacceptable, making out in front of her is definitely a no-no. Show respect and not do this. Finally, arguing with the boyfriend in front of her is disrespectful. This forces the sister to choose sides. Regardless of which person, she chooses, someone ends up mad. The argument escalates instead of reaching a conclusion.
When you chose to date him, you chose his sister too. Her significance isn’t diminishing as the relationship grows. If the boyfriend turns into a husband, she will evolve into your sister-in-law.
Likewise, it’s unlikely the boyfriend won’t cut her loose because you can’t stand her. Therefore, give the relationship a chance to blossom by learning how to get along with his sister. She won’t be your bestie overnight, but at least she will appreciate considering her emotions in this situation.
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Things To Do Before Marriage
Give yourself the mental, physical and emotional foundation you need before taking the plunge. This will give your marriage unshakable strength.
There are some things that all women should address before getting married. This will ensure that you have your head on straight and are equipped with the tools you need to have a positive long-term relationship.
We have the potential to create consistent and loving relationships if we know ourselves and work on ourselves; without that, it’s easy for the challenges that life throws you to knock you out of your comfort zone and shake up your marriage. Having these habits and emotional coping skills will help you through the challenges you might face.
1. Work on your self-esteem
Since we are talking about love, we first really need to look at how much we are looking to our partners to make ourselves feel good. This can be dangerous because they then have control over how you view yourself. This can lead to codependency and jealousy.
What we need is to really know who we are, what we feel our purpose is and to be proud of it. When we are overly obsessed with our looks and rely on that for the basis of our relationships, we will constantly worry about aging and losing our sex appeal. However, when we know that we are a good person and we know that’s what our man loves about us, aging won’t be scary and we will feel more secure.
2. Develop a healthy relationship with your body
If you are constantly obsessing over how you look, calling yourself fat or looking at photos and wishing you looked like someone else, you’re not ready to take the plunge. We have been programmed by marketing companies to be insecure and think that men like skinny girls.
Men love confident healthy women who are comfortable in their own skin, not women who are trying to be something they’re not. Tell yourself that you are beautiful, that you love your body, and if there’s one thing, you’re self-conscious about, tell yourself that you love that part about yourself, too.
3. Have strong friendships
Before you enter a marriage, you need to have women who you can discuss anything with—and I mean anything. You also want to be there for them. Women need a support group of grounded and mature females to share their feelings with. We can’t look to men to be our only support, and we really do need to spend time with other people, too. When you hear about the internal struggles in their relationships and how they deal with things, it will help you understand your own.
Plus, we need to stay involved in our friends lives so that we don’t live on an isolated island and lose touch with society. Remember those couples who start dating and suddenly you never see them again? Don’t be like that; be there for your friends and make time for them.
4. Address your addictions or obsessive behaviors
This is what no one wants to talk about, but it’s very important. Are you spending too much money? Are you drinking too much on the weekend? Do you need to curtail your obsession with changing your hair color?
If you feel out of control of your behavior in anyway, it’s not yet time to get married. Luckily, with the help of counsellors we can address these issues and overcome them.
If you want a long-lasting marriage, look at any substance abuse you might be dealing with and take the time you need to heal that. You will feel so much better walking down the aisle if your mind and body are healthy, and it’s only fair to your man.
5. Work on peaceful communication
If, as a couple, you are having fights where you say mean things to each other, you’re not ready to get married. Marriage is about loving each other, supporting each other and offering consistent patient communication. Iron this stuff out before you get married. You can take a peaceful communication class and really make it a focus to communicate in a calm and loving way.
Once you have that in check, you will want him to treat you with respect even when you’re stressed. You both need to be able to do this consistently before you walk down the aisle. This will allow for mature conversations instead of childish blowouts. Often, our insecurities are triggered with our partners but based on an experience we had growing up. It’s important to learn how to own your own stuff and not project it onto your partner.
6. Learn how to budget
Don’t get into a marriage if you’re still wild with your money. You want to know what your bills are, when they are due and how much money you have coming in.
You need to have a handle on how much you’re spending on food and other things so that you won’t be stressed about finances in your relationship. Why not deal with this now so there’s one less thing that could be draining or cause disagreements in your marriage?
7. Have a stable career and life goals
This is also extremely important. You need to have momentum in your life so that you don’t lose your identity. You want to have goals that you active pursue and are excited about. Let’s be real: this is something many women need to work on.
You can work with a life coach to help you figure this out before you get married. Remember, this is a new era, we can be leaders in our communities and mothers. Don’t just throw your goals out the window because you’re getting married; you need to keep your passion going.
8. Feel like you can stand on your own
This is a hard one to know for sure, but let’s say that you need to know that you would still be happy without your man. You would need to feel satisfied with the life you’re living and be able to support yourself. This ensures that you don’t have power struggles or feel less important than your partner.
If you were miserable before your relationship and looking for a relationship to save you, you’re not ready. If you don’t feel happy on a daily basis, you’re also not ready.
If you think that getting married is going to make the problems go away, slow down: you need to work on the problems and get to the root of the negative patterns before you tie the knot. This is also to protect you. It’s a big decision, and you want to make sure your man has communication skills, emotional coping skills and a strong sense of self as well.
9. Have techniques to keep your mind positive
Do you have a way to stay positive? Maybe learn meditation or work with setting an intention in the morning. Being able to keep a positive frame of mind will help you to get through the sad and stressful situations that will happen.
Imagine having kids together and the things that will be out of your control. You will need these tools in order to keep things positive and optimistic. There are good books and videos about this. Start now, and you’ll realize how fun life can really be.
10. Trust yourself
If you don’t trust yourself, you’re not ready for a relationship. If you find yourself thinking about being with other people and wondering if you would be happier with them, you’re not ready for marriage. You need to be all in and be able to be yourself. If you worry that you will hurt your partner, you need to work on why you’re not able to fully commit.
You also will not be able to trust someone else until you trust yourself. This means that you need to have complete transparency with him—no white lies. Don’t lie to him about where you’re going, what you buy or anything. It’s a bad habit that can cause a lot of problems.
Hopefully you found this helpful and will share it with your friends as it’s the advice any woman should have before getting married. We want to hear that your marriages last and are very happy!
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Christmas brings family and friends together; it helps us appreciate the love in our lives we can often take for granted. May the true meaning of the holiday season fill your heart and home with many blessings.During this season of giving, let us take time to slow down and enjoy the simple things. May this wonderful time of the year touch your heart in a special way. Wishing you peace, joy, and all the best this wonderful holiday has to offer. May this incredible time of giving and spending time with family bring you joy that lasts throughout the year
MERRY CHRISTMAS AND A PROSPEROUS NEW YEAR.
UNTILL NEXT YEAR, BE SAFE.
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